Sunday, March 15, 2009

When The Parent Needs the Child - Part II

I have begun reading 2 books simultaneously, these days. One could be any popular or not so popular, fiction/non- fiction and the other, which I only read in bed at night is something spiritual. So presently I am enthralled by and equally so with 'Dashavatar - The 10 Avatars of Vishnu' based on the lectures of Pandurang Shastri Athavale and 'Unaccustomed Earth' by Jhumpa Lahiri.

I want to give an excerpt of her book 'Unaccustomed Earth' because it resonates with and gives another perspective to the issues I mention in my earlier post. So read on:

"Now That he was on his own, acquaintences sometimes asked if he planned to move in with Ruma.Even Mrs. Bagchi mentioned the idea. But he pointed out that Ruma hadn't been raised with that sense of duty. She led her own life, had made her own decisions, married an American boy. He didn't expect her to take him in, and really, he couldn't blame her.For what had he done, when his father was dying, when his mother was left behind? By then Ruma and Romi were teenagers. There was no question of his moving the family back to India, and also no question of his eighty-year-old widowed mother moving to Pennsylavania. He had let his siblings look after her until she, too, eventually died."


D said...

Is this a coincidence that so many of us in blogosphere are writing about the same theme?

Chrysalis said...

Welcome to my space D. And yes I for one am glad that so many of us are writing about the same issue. I am stationed in the US on a temporary basis and have seen such depravity by Desis living here with repsect to the aforementioned issue...all in the name of money, career etc. It has chilled me to the core and I am scared of the fast declining values systems. It is so all pervasive that we do not think anything wrong with it. Response to Piper's post is a reflection of that. You were probably the only one (and later me) to take a clear stand and make no excuses.